Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Dress Drama

This isn't exactly the post I wanted to write. I wanted to write about how I let my bridesmaids (my two sisters, remember?) pick whatever they wanted, how they're going to wear their dresses over and over, and how it was so easy and casual and perfectly coordinating without being too matchy.

Well. It didn't work just like that. But first let's look at my inspiration pictures.




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They look effortless stylish and chic—like they pulled any old dress off the rack. And all of a sudden there they all are, these gorgeous polished bridesmaids in perfectly coordinating dresses.

Looking back at these pictures, it's probably more likely they looked for weeks or even months for their dresses—there was probably some arguments between the girls who had different ideas on what was "stylish" or "coordinating." Some of the girls probably had to pay a little more than they were comfortable with. And unless the bride was really totally ok with whatever the girls chose (which makes her a much better woman than most of us, including me!), there might have been some bridezilla drama going on.

Back in October when I got engaged, I was totally convinced the mismatched bridesmaids dresses would work just by letting my sisters pick whatever they wanted to wear in a shade of the wedding colors. (They also needed to be knee-length and not strapless.)

Three months passed, and we had gotten nowhere. They had looked through hundreds of dresses online, gone dress shopping, and argued back and forth on options. I think there are four reasons for why this technique really didn't work with my sisters:

1. My sisters have very, very different styles. One of my sisters proclaims herself a modern-day hippie and loves crazy bracelets, long skirts, headbands—you get the picture. My other sister is more reserved and prefers simple jeans and a v-neck shirt.

2. They're both tall (over 5' 8") runners, which means they're built like athletes, not tiny gymnasts. This makes finding casual dresses that fit a muscular frame comfortably and still fall to the knee really, really difficult.

3. My wedding colors were "officially" coral and seafoam—but neither of my sisters were really on board with wearing coral. Which was totally fine with me, but seafoam is a really hard color to match. They ended up looking for anything in the "light green" range, but matching "mint" to "meadow" could get into the "almost the same color, but not quite, so they clash" category.

4. My sisters are both younger and still in college. This also means they didn't want to spend a ton on their dresses, and I didn't want them to either!

This post is already long enough, so we'll save the decisions we made until the next post! Any thoughts on how to make mismatched dresses work? What if you have a small bridal party? What about younger bridesmaids?

Monday, January 7, 2013

An Official DIY Post

Somehow, I feel like I have to write a how-to post in order to be a legitimate bride. Ok, I know that's not true. But I'm still excited to write about my biggest project so far—and definitely my favorite.

I told you before about my Scrabble obsession inspiration. I was innocently scrolling through Pinterest when I saw the following picture:


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I loved the idea of labeling the card box with Scrabble letters! Except, as always, I had to take it one, or two, or three steps further. First of all, I wanted them to be made out of wood to mimic as closely as possible the smaller Scrabble letters I had already ordered. Second, I wanted to label all the tables with matching letters. Third, I wanted to make them myself, with a budget of... basically zero dollars.

Originally I was all like "We'll just make the words breakfast and lunch! It will be easy! It will only take us a half hour!" Somehow that morphed into 61 letters of two different sizes and five people spending over fifteen hours combined on the project. Oops.

We wanted to make the following words to label the various tables:

LUNCH
COFFEE
BREAKFAST
GUESTBOOK
GIFTS

We also wanted to use the Scrabble letters as table markers for seating—like table numbers. We're planning on having around fifteen tables, so we needed the letters A through O.

Finally, we wanted to make larger letters (7" by 7") to put on the mantel. We decided on "NATHAN & LAURA" for these letters. After we added up all the letters, we had 49 4" by 4" letters and 12 7" by 7" letters.

After we figured out what we wanted to do and how to do it (we had some issues with spray paint and markers bleeding into the wood and not creating crisp lines), my dad got to work ripping quarter inch plywood into 4" by 4" and 7" by 7" squares. He made a few extra of both, but we ended up only using one extra 4" by 4" square by accident. He sanded the edges and coated them in lacquer so the paint or marker wouldn't bleed along with the grain of the wood.

The wood took a while to dry, so we lined them up along the hallway in our house. When the wood was finally dry, we stacked them on the table along with a really cute Christmas tablecloth... one that we didn't mind getting glue on obviously!


In the pictures the wood looks like it's different colors—this is because the back of the plywood was a slightly different color than the front. We chose to use the lighter side for all of the tiles, so they all look consistent. On the table letters we put the number on both side, so they don't match perfectly. You can't tell unless you put them side by side though!

While we were waiting for the wood to be prepped, we got to work creating our templates. There was no way this girl was going to freehand letters and numbers onto 61 tiles! We used the letters from this site because they were classic and had clean lines. We simply copied and pasted the images into Microsoft Word and resized them to either the 4" by 4" or 7" by 7" size. Then we printed them on cardstock and cut around the edges. I don't have any pictures of this part—but the next thing we did was carefully cut out the letters and numbers using an X-Acto knife. It ended up being really important to make precise cuts, especially on the smaller numbers. You can see where we didn't do a great job with this in the final product. When we were done, the templates looked like this (sitting on top of a finished block of wood):


In order to keep the template in place, we put a thin film of glue stick on the back of the template and pressed down hard along the edges of each letter and number. We found that the glue stick came off pretty easily (as long as you didn't use too much!) and you could use the templates over and over—because we only cut out one template of each letter.

When it came to actually writing on the block of wood, we tried several different things. Spray paint proved to be messy and not entirely precise. Painting the letters individually was time-consuming and again, messy. So when all else fails, use a Sharpie!


Or... eleven Sharpies (and permanent markers). The Sharpies faded quickly writing on the lacquered wood—RIP all the Sharpies that found a quick death in this project! Buying the markers proved to be the most expensive part of the project. My dad already had the wood (he's a construction manager and carpenter) so the only other cost was the cardstock, which again we already had on hand. This would be slightly more expensive if you had to buy wood—for example, here's a 2' by 4' sheet of quarter inch plywood from Lowe's for ten dollars (don't ask me if this is what my dad used, I have no idea...).

Then it was time to go! But first, some Leverage on my laptop (my current favorite show—sadly, TNT canceled Leverage after this season).


By the end of the night, we got into a groove. Nathan would glue the templates onto the wood (like above) and Abigail would trace over the template with a Sharpie. Note: these are actually Nathan's hands before Abigail took over the template tracing!


After the templates had been traced and removed, the letters were still in rough shape. That's when Emily and I would take the letters and slowly trace around the edges or fill in any spots that weren't super clean. This was the hardest part of the project, as seen by the fact that it took two of us to keep up! Here's a shot of us working over halfway through the project—it's past 11:00 here.


Not all of the letters are perfect. Some of them are slightly larger or smaller, and there are definitely little oopsies. But around midnight (on New Years Day) we finished up the project and laid out all of the letters to view our handiwork!


I'm really happy with them. Here's a closeup of the table letters:


My personal favorites are the larger letters spelling out our names. I have a secret ambition to hang these in our house someday!


So did I do ok on my first DIY how-to post ever? What do you think of the letters? Is my obsession officially out of control? (Don't answer that last one.)

Friday, January 4, 2013

Countdown: Four Months

Umm, wow. Four months already? I feel like I was just writing the five months countdown post. These will definitely be the hardest four months of the engagement, for several reasons. In exactly a week, I'll be starting my final semester of graduate school. I'll also be working two part-time jobs—although less hours than last year. Nathan is in Michigan, so add a long distance relationship onto that, plus of course finishing up wedding planning and getting ready to move!

Oh yeah, and I need a job and a place to move and stuff to move in with.

But instead of totally freaking out about everything that's not done, let's talk about what is done—because I'm pretty pumped about this!

To recap, last post I named four things I wanted to accomplish this month. Here they are with what I wanted to accomplish and what I did accomplish.

1. Invitations: We need to finalize our guest list, begin collecting addresses, & come up with a rough mock-up of our invitations. NAILED IT.

Actually, more than a pass, because not only did we come up with a final guest list and collect all but a few addresses on the list, we also chose an invitation design, talked through wording with our parents, priced everything out, and ordered Mini Moo cards. We're totally on track with this!

2. Flowers & decorations: I need to start making flowers, continue looking for books, and work on Scrabble letters. Definitely a PASS.

The individual flowers are completely done and I'm working on table flowers. We also now have over thirty books and the Scrabble letters are completely done! Several posts coming up on these things. I can actually say that this time because my Scrabble letters post is completely written—and it's an official DIY post this time!

3. Caterer: Hopefully having a tasting this month and deciding on our menu & cakes! DONE and DONE.

We did have a tasting! I did a catering update but didn't give all the details on the tasting yet—definitely to come and I'm super excited about this.

4. Decide where to register & start scanning. Umm YES. 

We definitely have the base of our registry built! I know I'm going to have to add more items, but I had it done enough to have a shower on New Years Day and we've even added more things since.

Things I need to work on for next month:

1. Invitations: I need to get the invitations printed, start assembling what I need, and working on getting addresses in place.

2. Flowers & decorations: Make progress on the table flowers (I don't need to finish these yet!) and figure out how many more books I need.

3. Registry: Fill out with some more items.

4. Programs: Print, cut, & organize!

That's doable right? I sure hope so!

Flashback Friday: One Year

Remember in my very first post ever I talked about the Cleveland Park Event Center? Probably not! But that's ok. I'll refresh your memory with this picture:


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Nathan and I stumbled across Cleveland Park in December of 2011 and thought it was cute that we wanted to go back eventually! Well the day we chose to go back happened to be the one year anniversary of when we started dating. Cute—I know right?


So we grabbed a pizza and some breadsticks and headed to the park. Unlike the day we got engaged (spoiler alert) this day in the park was absolute gorgeous for late February! Oh yeah, and apparently we were starving because we ate the entire pizza and all the breadsticks? I'm hungry just thinking about it. So delicious.

Uhh, so back to the story.


This was really just the greatest day! After pizza and a walk in the park we went downtown and checked out a cool bookstore (and got iced tea—again, it was really hot for February). Let's just be honest, I really wrote this post for myself, because these memories still make me happy thinking about them a year later!

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Picture from the Past

Last week I was looking for pictures for my bridal shower (more on that later!) and came across some this old picture...


Yes, that's my two sisters and me from Halloween 1995! I was about to turn five which means Emily was three and Abigail was almost two. Apparently we went as a bride and her two bridesmaids, although I don't actually remember this beyond the picture unfortunately.

I love our bouquets and hair bows—but clearly the best part is my frilly dress with a turtleneck underneath. Halloween in Wisconsin is cold!

Can't wait for them to be my bridesmaids for real! Thanks Emily & Abigail—I won't even make you wear black velvet dresses and white tights this time around.

Irrational Engagement Envy

Note: This post originally appeared on A Practical Wedding.


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My proposal story and ring are perfect. The day my fiancé and I got engaged we spent the entire afternoon and evening doing all of our favorite things—picnicking, singing in the car, watching our TV shows, walking around our favorite park, eating pizza downtown. In fact, we ate lunch in the same park that we had spent our one-year dating anniversary; we even sat in the same place and reminisced about how far we had come. I will always remember the silly details of that day—stalling my car five or six times, arguing over missing the turn out of the roundabout, wrapping up in blankets for our picnic on what was supposed to be a warm day. When I finally fell asleep that night it was with my ring nestled comfortably on my finger and to thoughts about how happy the day had been. My ring, too, was exactly what I wanted—except better than I ever could have imagined. All those fears and worries about what if I hate the ring? Gone. It was simple, timeless, and of course sparkly.

Then two things happened. One, people I barely knew started coming up and congratulating me—sweet of them!—and then immediately launching into asking questions about the engagement. How did he propose? Where were you? Let me see the ring! All of a sudden when telling the engagement story I didn’t know what to say. The short version, “We spent the afternoon in our favorite park and got engaged by a waterfall downtown…,” seemed inadequate. But I couldn’t explain the part where we were going to turn right to get to the park but the traffic was so bad we just abandoned that plan and turned left instead—barely making it onto the highway laughing and glad to be alive. And how could I tell them about sitting on our picnic blanket freezing cold and giggling as we pulled the other blanket over our heads like a fort? So instead I offered up, “We went to our favorite park and ate lunch…,” and they were underwhelmed. I showed them my ring and when they asked if it was what I wanted I weakly explained, “We picked it out together…,” because we did. Picking out my ring together was fun, trying, and a growing experience all at the same time. I wouldn’t have it any other way. But how do you share that with a stranger?

Second, other people started getting engaged, and their proposal stories were “better.” The key on the beach that opened a treasure chest five hundred miles away? Check. The clearing in the forest with the torches and antique desk? Check. The elaborate scavenger hunt with complicated clues and expensive gifts? Also check. The girls were surprised, elated, and more than happy to share their story with everyone. Their rings were trendy, gaudy, and glittery—everything that the wedding industry loves to push. I felt an irrational engagement envy. They had the ideal proposals, the fancy rings! How could I possibly live up to all that?

But wait! The ring with three halos and 128 tiny diamonds is not for me, and it never was. I have always wanted a classic solitaire like the one resting on my mother’s elegant gold band, something I could wear forever and it would never be out of style. Similarly, the idea of a surprise proposal terrified me—my fiancé and I have always made all our decisions together and planned our lives as a team. Why would this be any different? We’re a partnership, and our partnership is based on trust and togetherness. My favorite dates are walks in the park hand-in-hand while he listens to me talk about our latest client at work or a project I’m leading in graduate school. I value time spent together, not money spent on me. The fact that he skipped class and ignored his text messages for an afternoon meant infinitely more than a carriage ride through downtown or my name on the Jumbotron.

It’s a work in progress. Sometimes I feel a twinge of envy when I see a photo album on Facebook of a particularly intricate proposal. When another girl at work got engaged, there was a little jealousy to hear the exclamations of “Wow, your ring is huge!” Then I think back to the day in the park; my fiancé’s hand in mine as we walked around the lake; drinking hot chocolate; and stealing more than my share of the blanket to stay warm on the coldest day of the season so far. I look down at my hand and see my amazing ring—my delicate solitaire that perches so elegantly on my finger—and smile. Because no one’s engagement is as perfect as mine.

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

It's a New Year and...

... time for the typical New Years Resolutions post.

I've never really been one to make New Years Resolutions. To me, if something is worth changing it's worth changing now. That being said, I love making goals! So this short post will talk about goals for 2013, and then we can get back to normal posting!

1. Get married.

Umm duh. This one is pretty self explanatory. And a typical laughing shot just because I want to.


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2. Find a job in marketing/communications/human resources.

I honestly don't have any one position I'm looking to go into. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or not! I'm willing to take whatever is open and figure out my path from there, although shouldn't I know by now five years of school later? I guess we'll find out!

3. Buy a house.

Ok, this one may not happen in 2013, since there's a number of other things that have to lead up to this! But I can't wait to have our own house to fix up and decorate.


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4. Run a personal best time in the 5k.

Right now my best time is a 21:53. And although this goal just says "run a personal best," I'm going to be honest and admit my secret goal is actually to run a sub 21:00. I've talked before about running and setting running specific goals.

5. Travel to one new location for a long weekend.

I'd love to visit another country or go on a super exciting trip, but I'll keep it simple this year and just say visit one new place. Maybe somewhere out east? I've never been to New York City or a lot of New England. Or I'd be happy with a long weekend on a lake somewhere!


Photo credit. Put Niagara Falls on the list!

In a graduate strategic planning class, we talked about the very simple concept of setting SMART goals: goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound. Hopefully all of my goals met these criteria! I tried to stay away from a goal of eating healthier, for example, (even though I need it!) because it's not specific or measurable, even though it's definitely relevant and time-bound... attainable? That's still up for debate! What about the rest of the goals? Are they SMART? What are some other goals or resolutions for the new year?