Friday, January 11, 2013

Making Decisions is Awesome

After weeks of indecision and frustration (summarized here), I decided to narrow down the search. Remember, my dress is the J. CREW Sophia in ivory silk chiffon. I wanted something to match the simple style and flowy fabric. Simplest way to do that is to buy the bridesmaids dresses from
J. CREW as well.

Now, before I sound either overly preppy or made of money—remember I paid only a fraction of the cost for my dress, and as you'll see in this post my sisters got great deals as well. Buying the dresses here was a decision of convenience and availability!

In about ten minutes I scanned the J. CREW website and came up with four of their bridesmaids dress options that fit what I was looking for.


The J. CREW Mirabelle, Sinclair, Louisa, and Heidi.

Unfortunately, these dresses were still $250 or more. I found some great deals on eBay and other dress resale sites that made me think this could actually work—and then I found the sale section of the J. CREW site. First of all, I'm never buying anything full price again.

Second, I found the J. CREW Macie.


Note: I linked to the petite listing because the regular size listing doesn't show it on a model! However, it's also on sale in the regular sizes, although with limited colors. Which we can deal with for a $250 dress down to $70. That's even cheaper than I found it on resale sites online.

Now, while I absolutely loved that coral color... it just wasn't what my sisters wanted to wear. And you know what? That's ok! My sister Abigail happened to love the color gallery green which was available in her size.

Emily wasn't the biggest fan of the Macie, but she did love one of the options I had mentioned from the beginning—the Louisa, which also happened to be on sale in the color gallery green. Choosing an "off" color like gallery green turned out to be a great decision!

So here's what our final choices turned out to be. On the left is the Macie, on sale for $70–Abigail's dress. On the right is the Louisa, on sale for $130—Emily's dress.


This is going to force a slight adjustment in color—I'm basically going to replace the seafoam green in my original inspiration with this more of a kelly green. It's really not going to affect much. The bouquets (I promise I'm eventually going to blog about these!) are coral, light blue, and light yellow, all colors that will work great with kelly green. I hadn't really purchased anything else in green except the guys ties. When the dresses come, I'll see if the ties work with them. If not, I only paid $12, so I'll go out on the lookout for something else!

Flashback Friday: The Proposal

I already sorta kinda maybe posted about the proposal here. In that post I talk about how hard it is for me to talk about my proposal story—almost as if it's too personal to share. But I do want to elaborate on some of the elements I talk about in that post, some of those "so incredibly good, they'll always be there" memories.

Nathan and I literally sat down with our schedules and a calender to figure out a day that would work in the month of October. It went like this...

Me: I have class Monday and Thursday nights and Friday October 5th and Saturday the 6th. 
Nathan: I work Friday the 12th, Saturday the 13, Saturday the 20th, and Saturday the 27th.
Me: I have huge paper due the 15th, there's a concert on the 23rd...

Ok, you get it. It wasn't easy to find a day that would work. I ended up taking the afternoon of October 9th off work and Nathan skipped class—after choosing a day with no quizzes or tests. The ten-day forecast showed a beautiful 70 degree day and we had plans for a picnic in the same park we spent our one-year dating anniversary.

Guys, it was SO COLD. I was wearing a long-sleeved shirt, heavy fleece jacket, scarf, and gloves... and was wrapped in a blanket sitting on a blanket. Eating soup. Drinking hot chocolate. For South Carolina in October, this is an abnormality—we're talking about the same state where it was 70 degrees yesterday.


On the bright side, soup from Panera is really yummy. All we did was bum around the park all afternoon. It was awesome. We sat in the gazebo and ate and talked about how much pizza we ate the last time we were there. Walked around the lake. Watched the newest episode of Bones on my iPad. Sat around until I got too cold to sit around and then we headed back to Greenville to our favorite little park.


Little stream runs straight down the middle and pours off this rock into a pool.


This park is really only as wide as this picture, but it's so cute and secluded. During warm sunny days the park is packed with picnickers and photo shoots. On a day like today—you guessed it—we had the place to ourselves.

Yes—I knew it was coming. He didn't have the ring box in his pocket in Spartanburg. He put in his pocket before we left that park and unzipped his pocket when we got down to the base of the waterfall. Does that make it any less special? Absolutely not.

I didn't feel any "different" after the proposal. Like "OMG I'm engaged life is perfect!!!" We were content, together, and... cold. So basically exactly how we were before the proposal. And probably explains why we didn't spend much more time in the park before hopping in the car to go get some pizza. I was hungry—I like food and I'm not ashamed to admit it. So on to food, then, and telling family and friends.

Thursday, January 10, 2013

The Heart Hole Punch

Last night I was at Walmart with exactly five things on my list—Kleenex, Advil, new screen protectors for my iPhone, and thin ribbon and a hole punch for my invitations. Side note: Apparently EVERYONE got an iPhone for Christmas, because Walmart was completely out of screen protectors. And I just placed an order on Amazon and forgot to order more. Dang it.

So I found thin coral ribbon at 10 yards for $0.49 and grabbed two because that's all they had. I'll probably need more actually—for the invitations I need to talk about still. Then I searched all over the store for a hole punch. Turns out the hole punches are in the school supply section, not the craft section or the party section. I did find cute cookie cutters in the party section though.

I grabbed the basic, $0.97 hole punch and started walking towards the door. Then it hit me. My invitations would be so much cuter with a heart hole punch.

In about 0.02 seconds my mind was telling me "Well, I can't get the circle hole punch because the invitations would just look awful with circle holes but amazing with heart holes!" And all I could think about was how I have to have a heart hole punch. Of course, Walmart doesn't have a heart hole punch—at least not that I could find. But that's ok, back to my trusty friend the internet to find me a heart hole punch that could fulfill my obsession.

Amazon told me heart hole punches were at least $7.50 plus shipping. Cue budget guilt.

"Should I really pay TEN TIMES as much or more for a heart hole punch?" 

"I don't NEED it... it's nice but not necessary!"

"I should just buy the $0.97 hole punch and let my invitations look ugly."

Ok, so reality check.

1. My invitations would not look ugly with circle holes instead of heart holes. In fact, no one will even notice. Except me of course.

2. I have budgeted my expenses and have more than enough money in the "invitations" section to cover a heart hole punch.

So you know what? I bought a heart hole punch. Actually, I bought three hole punches—a heart punch, a star punch, and a circle punch. They look like this:


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I didn't buy them because I have to have them. I bought them because I think they would be a cool addition to our invitations, and I can afford them.

And that's ok. Not everything has to be the cheapest thing out there, and not everything has to be absolutely necessary to my project. You can always use hole punches in the future—and hey, these have cool purple handles!

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

You Have Bewitched Me

Name this movie: "You have bewitched me body and soul and I love you. And I never wish to be parted from you from this day on."

Did you guess Pride & Prejudice?


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Cheesy, maybe. But I have absolutely loved Pride & Prejudice since I first read the book—in middle school maybe? I've read it multiple times and seen both movies (of course!). I think it's such an amazing love story, and Keira Knightley is pretty amazing herself in the newer movie version.

But this post is actually about my first bridal shower! Initially when asked about having a shower with my church on New Years Day I was very hesitant. At that point I hadn't registered at all or even thought about having a shower. Fortunately I recuperated quickly and gathered some items into a registry. I'll have to post more about this, because this was and is way more difficult than I originally anticipated.

My mother and another woman from my church hosted the shower jointly. It was a brunch, and my mother cooked an incredible spread of food! Virginia did all of the amazing decorations—Pride & Prejudice themed, hence my opening.


She painted this print on canvas—too cute! The table centerpieces were stacked books with adorable tea pots and jars sitting on top of them and coral flowers to match my wedding colors. It was kind of like a dry run through for my wedding decorations.


Sorry this picture is so dark—photographer I am not, and all I have right now are my iPhone pictures. This is the place settings. The favors on each plate were Hershey kisses wrapped in pages of an old Pride & Prejudice book! She ripped the pages out, folded them in half with the kisses tucked inside, and sewed the edges to make a cute pocket.


My mom and lovely sisters cooked the food. I only took a picture of half of the table and the cupcakes, but we had mini muffins, sausage, breakfast pizza (so amazingly good!), carrot cupcakes, quiche, rolls, pumpkin French toast bake (to die for—so glad I got the recipe), and fresh fruit. Since it was a small church shower, that was more than enough food to feed the 20 or so ladies with their daughters who came. And it all tasted delicious.


I'm really mature, so I referred to the gift table as our "shrine table," complete with our engagement pictures and a candle lit in our honor. But in all seriousness—we were overwhelmed and very thankful for the many lovely gifts we received! I need to do another post soon about our registry, and when I do I'll share more.

I will say that to me the most uncomfortable part of the shower was opening the gifts. I am not naturally good in groups, and sitting in front of everyone opening gifts while they watch my reactions was out of my comfort zone. It's interesting—I can stand in front of a class and give a speech with little anxiety but when it comes to communicating personally with a group of my peers, my heartbeat skyrockets. I was nervous for the shower overall, but I really enjoyed getting to talk with many of these women, including my aunt and cousin. Some of them have known me and babysat me since I was three years old. And when the pressure was too much—well, I just escaped to the corner and colored pictures with the little girls at the shower.


Speaking of kids, check out these adorable girls (and baby boy!) who attended my shower—along with my lovely sisters and cousin. And a huge thank you to all who came and supported me, especially my mom and Virginia for hosting!

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Tangent Tuesday: My Favorite Things

I've found that I don't like posting recaps of activities or events as much as I like writing about topics. Granted I don't have anything deep or meaningful to write about but hey, life isn't always complicated. Sometimes, it's just like The Sound of Music and about a few of our favorite things...


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And because I'm mildly obsessive compulsive and love lists, here's a list.

1. My iPhone and Mophie


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Well duh, I love my iPhone, Apple is amazing, blah blah blah. The major flaw with the iPhone though is that I can easily drain my battery completely by early evening—and plugging it in is either not possible or a total pain. For my birthday my parents bought me a Mophie Juice Pack Air which extends my battery pack by... a lot. I don't know, like half a day? All I know is at the end of the day I don't have search for my cord to keep my phone from shutting down. It's bulky, but that doesn't bother me. The one thing that would be neat is if Mophie came in other colors besides plain white—pink please?

2. Amazon

Amazon's not a thing? Who said Amazon can't be a thing? In wedding planning I've been using Amazon for EVERYTHING, and because Nathan has Amazon Prime we get free two-day shipping. So basically, I never leave my apartment to go to the store.

3. Tazo Tea

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Ok yes, I love Starbucks as much as the next girl. And I love carrying a Starbucks cup around with me all day. Do I love paying $4 a day for tea? No. (I don't drink coffee.) Good thing this tea is amazing. My favorites are Refresh and Zen—Passion is good but very very strong if you let it sit more than 0.00001 seconds. So is Organic Chai. p.s. I like my tea weak.

4. My Brooks Nightlife Running Jacket and Pro Compression Socks


Personal photo. Does this look like an outtake for a photo shoot? Thought so.

My three siblings and I all got the Brooks neon yellow Nightlife jacket for Christmas. I also got bright pink Pro Compression socks—and gave Emily and Nathan black Pro Compression socks. Hey, if it's a good product, buy more of it. Abigail, Emily, and I all sported our matching jackets on a (cold cold cold) run to Minneahaha Falls in Minneapolis and Nathan (taking the picture), Emily, and I also wore our compression socks. Love them. The jackets are reflective for running at night and the socks aid in blood flow and recovery.

5. Leverage


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This is a bittersweet one because just after I finally started watching and loving this show, TNT canceled it after five seasons. On the bright side, there's five seasons to watch! Eliot (to the left of the guy in the center—team leader Nate) is my favorite character, closely followed by Parker and Hardison (to the right). Nate and Sophie are kind of whatever, but every fight Eliot gets into makes up for it. If you haven't seen it, you don't understand—but it's awesome. Just trust me.

What are some of your favorite things? Bonus points if you put them into song form.

Dress Drama

This isn't exactly the post I wanted to write. I wanted to write about how I let my bridesmaids (my two sisters, remember?) pick whatever they wanted, how they're going to wear their dresses over and over, and how it was so easy and casual and perfectly coordinating without being too matchy.

Well. It didn't work just like that. But first let's look at my inspiration pictures.




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They look effortless stylish and chic—like they pulled any old dress off the rack. And all of a sudden there they all are, these gorgeous polished bridesmaids in perfectly coordinating dresses.

Looking back at these pictures, it's probably more likely they looked for weeks or even months for their dresses—there was probably some arguments between the girls who had different ideas on what was "stylish" or "coordinating." Some of the girls probably had to pay a little more than they were comfortable with. And unless the bride was really totally ok with whatever the girls chose (which makes her a much better woman than most of us, including me!), there might have been some bridezilla drama going on.

Back in October when I got engaged, I was totally convinced the mismatched bridesmaids dresses would work just by letting my sisters pick whatever they wanted to wear in a shade of the wedding colors. (They also needed to be knee-length and not strapless.)

Three months passed, and we had gotten nowhere. They had looked through hundreds of dresses online, gone dress shopping, and argued back and forth on options. I think there are four reasons for why this technique really didn't work with my sisters:

1. My sisters have very, very different styles. One of my sisters proclaims herself a modern-day hippie and loves crazy bracelets, long skirts, headbands—you get the picture. My other sister is more reserved and prefers simple jeans and a v-neck shirt.

2. They're both tall (over 5' 8") runners, which means they're built like athletes, not tiny gymnasts. This makes finding casual dresses that fit a muscular frame comfortably and still fall to the knee really, really difficult.

3. My wedding colors were "officially" coral and seafoam—but neither of my sisters were really on board with wearing coral. Which was totally fine with me, but seafoam is a really hard color to match. They ended up looking for anything in the "light green" range, but matching "mint" to "meadow" could get into the "almost the same color, but not quite, so they clash" category.

4. My sisters are both younger and still in college. This also means they didn't want to spend a ton on their dresses, and I didn't want them to either!

This post is already long enough, so we'll save the decisions we made until the next post! Any thoughts on how to make mismatched dresses work? What if you have a small bridal party? What about younger bridesmaids?

Monday, January 7, 2013

An Official DIY Post

Somehow, I feel like I have to write a how-to post in order to be a legitimate bride. Ok, I know that's not true. But I'm still excited to write about my biggest project so far—and definitely my favorite.

I told you before about my Scrabble obsession inspiration. I was innocently scrolling through Pinterest when I saw the following picture:


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I loved the idea of labeling the card box with Scrabble letters! Except, as always, I had to take it one, or two, or three steps further. First of all, I wanted them to be made out of wood to mimic as closely as possible the smaller Scrabble letters I had already ordered. Second, I wanted to label all the tables with matching letters. Third, I wanted to make them myself, with a budget of... basically zero dollars.

Originally I was all like "We'll just make the words breakfast and lunch! It will be easy! It will only take us a half hour!" Somehow that morphed into 61 letters of two different sizes and five people spending over fifteen hours combined on the project. Oops.

We wanted to make the following words to label the various tables:

LUNCH
COFFEE
BREAKFAST
GUESTBOOK
GIFTS

We also wanted to use the Scrabble letters as table markers for seating—like table numbers. We're planning on having around fifteen tables, so we needed the letters A through O.

Finally, we wanted to make larger letters (7" by 7") to put on the mantel. We decided on "NATHAN & LAURA" for these letters. After we added up all the letters, we had 49 4" by 4" letters and 12 7" by 7" letters.

After we figured out what we wanted to do and how to do it (we had some issues with spray paint and markers bleeding into the wood and not creating crisp lines), my dad got to work ripping quarter inch plywood into 4" by 4" and 7" by 7" squares. He made a few extra of both, but we ended up only using one extra 4" by 4" square by accident. He sanded the edges and coated them in lacquer so the paint or marker wouldn't bleed along with the grain of the wood.

The wood took a while to dry, so we lined them up along the hallway in our house. When the wood was finally dry, we stacked them on the table along with a really cute Christmas tablecloth... one that we didn't mind getting glue on obviously!


In the pictures the wood looks like it's different colors—this is because the back of the plywood was a slightly different color than the front. We chose to use the lighter side for all of the tiles, so they all look consistent. On the table letters we put the number on both side, so they don't match perfectly. You can't tell unless you put them side by side though!

While we were waiting for the wood to be prepped, we got to work creating our templates. There was no way this girl was going to freehand letters and numbers onto 61 tiles! We used the letters from this site because they were classic and had clean lines. We simply copied and pasted the images into Microsoft Word and resized them to either the 4" by 4" or 7" by 7" size. Then we printed them on cardstock and cut around the edges. I don't have any pictures of this part—but the next thing we did was carefully cut out the letters and numbers using an X-Acto knife. It ended up being really important to make precise cuts, especially on the smaller numbers. You can see where we didn't do a great job with this in the final product. When we were done, the templates looked like this (sitting on top of a finished block of wood):


In order to keep the template in place, we put a thin film of glue stick on the back of the template and pressed down hard along the edges of each letter and number. We found that the glue stick came off pretty easily (as long as you didn't use too much!) and you could use the templates over and over—because we only cut out one template of each letter.

When it came to actually writing on the block of wood, we tried several different things. Spray paint proved to be messy and not entirely precise. Painting the letters individually was time-consuming and again, messy. So when all else fails, use a Sharpie!


Or... eleven Sharpies (and permanent markers). The Sharpies faded quickly writing on the lacquered wood—RIP all the Sharpies that found a quick death in this project! Buying the markers proved to be the most expensive part of the project. My dad already had the wood (he's a construction manager and carpenter) so the only other cost was the cardstock, which again we already had on hand. This would be slightly more expensive if you had to buy wood—for example, here's a 2' by 4' sheet of quarter inch plywood from Lowe's for ten dollars (don't ask me if this is what my dad used, I have no idea...).

Then it was time to go! But first, some Leverage on my laptop (my current favorite show—sadly, TNT canceled Leverage after this season).


By the end of the night, we got into a groove. Nathan would glue the templates onto the wood (like above) and Abigail would trace over the template with a Sharpie. Note: these are actually Nathan's hands before Abigail took over the template tracing!


After the templates had been traced and removed, the letters were still in rough shape. That's when Emily and I would take the letters and slowly trace around the edges or fill in any spots that weren't super clean. This was the hardest part of the project, as seen by the fact that it took two of us to keep up! Here's a shot of us working over halfway through the project—it's past 11:00 here.


Not all of the letters are perfect. Some of them are slightly larger or smaller, and there are definitely little oopsies. But around midnight (on New Years Day) we finished up the project and laid out all of the letters to view our handiwork!


I'm really happy with them. Here's a closeup of the table letters:


My personal favorites are the larger letters spelling out our names. I have a secret ambition to hang these in our house someday!


So did I do ok on my first DIY how-to post ever? What do you think of the letters? Is my obsession officially out of control? (Don't answer that last one.)